In Memoriam
My Friend Nikki
This is not an easy post to write but is one coming from the heart. On October 17, 2026, this world lost the physical presence of my friend Nikki, but her spirit remains strong in those of us privileged to know her. And by providing a glimpse of what Nikki meant to me, I hope to add you to that circle.
Nikki came into my life as a colleague and in our 19 some years of working together became family. She was always present for me and I hope me for her. We started our work days with a phone call to check in which in retirement became a daily email.
Early Years
Ironically, our relationship as colleagues cemented when Nikki was sent by our then manager to observe whether or not I was handling a state relationship properly. Whatever Nikki had been told of my supposed short comings, she approached the situation by treating me fairly. By the end of our trip, I gained a supporter and valued colleague.
Excellence
Our work required a range of skillsets, running the gamut from managing diverse relationships (anyone from governors to administrative clerks) and the capacity to make complex proposals winning propositions. Nikki mastered them all.
Through collaboration, our connection grew. Of all of us on our team, Nikki’s approach to RFPs (request for proposals) was the best. She was the master of stripping down complexity to organized pieces and possessed the ability to delegate appropriately. Working with her was a lesson in “how to.”
Travel
Over the years, we travelled together many times for work. Gradually, what started as a valued colleague relationship morphed into a friendship. From a raft trip in Jackson Hole to closing Broadway on the last night before the Covid shut down, we enjoyed each other’s company.
Evolution of a Friendship
We shared good times and supported each other in bad. Nikki became a grandmother; I married Russ. Her father died and I lost my mother. Our friendship became a pillar of my support system.
Retirement
Retirement
On April 4, 2025 both of us retired and the next phase of our friendship began. Nikki accompanied Russ and I on our move to Montpellier. Her time here was fast paced as we strode to equip Russ and my empty apartment to a livable space
Since Russ and I committed to a no-car lifestyle, multitudes of tram rides occurred. On one, I thought I caught Nikki’s eye to signal departing at a stop. No such luck. I thought I’d lost her for good because I couldn’t even call her as our phones weren’t set up yet.
Nikki got off at the next stop and made her way back. I never had to tell her husband Paul that his wife was riding a tram somewhere in Montpellier…
Instead, after completing much of the apartment set up, Nikki and I travelled to Paris for several fun-filled days and she returned to the states.
The next year and a half Nikki and I emailed daily. Zoom calls were a regular event. We shared our first year of retirement and grew as friends.
Godspeed
And then, cancer happened. On our last Zoom together, Nikki looked like her usual put-together self as she took the call from her hospital bed. It would be less than 6 weeks until Paul called me, sharing that Nikki passed.
I miss her. A Nikki-sized place will always remain in my heart. Not a hole, a vibrant touchstone that will carry on our friendship.
Godspeed my friend.
(Link to official obituary: Nikki)
What an awesome eulogy, Leslie. You spoke from the heart and with much love. I wasn’t as close to Nikki as you were, but everything you said about her was on point. Much love to both you and Russ as I know you will always miss her.
Love and prayers to you both,
Linda
Nikki, your life was filled with love and joy. So glad that the two of you had each other to multiply life’s experiences, Leslie. I can feel the love and the joy that you shared, through your musing. Thank you for sharing Nikki with us. Godspeed, Nikki.
You did an amazing heartfelt eulogy of your friend. She will always be with you and I am so sorry for your loss. Trust in God, He will see you through. Linda Parrish
Leslie-
I am so sorry to hear this news. While this is a life long loss, dwell on the profound joy she brought to you. Her strength lives on in you and will serve as a foundation for everything you do the rest of your life. The good times will sustain you through any dark moments to come. Let her see your beautiful smile and think of her often.
Take care.
Bowie
Leslie, it sounds like you had a very true friend in Nikki. You and she were both lucky to have each other. My heart goes out to you as you mourn her passing.
So sad to read this. But a beautiful ode to your friendship and love. My heart skipped a beat when I read the title of the post. I am so so sorry for your loss Leslie and Russ and Paul. Tight hugs😘
That is simply beautiful.
Leslie, I am so sorry for your loss. Nikki sounds like a wonderful person and a great friend.
❤️ Thank you for sharing Leslie…Nikki will certainly be missed! Happy to see she was able to visit you and Russ in Montpellier 🌞
I had to wait until after work to read this because I knew I would cry. Sending love to you.
Leslie, what a wonderful tribute to Nikki. How fortunate you were to have her in your life. I’m so sorry.
Leslie, what a wonderful tribute to Nikki. How fortunate you were to have her in your life. I’m so sorry.
Leslie, I am so sorry you lost the physical presence of your beloved Nikki. She will always be with you. Love never dies.